Motherhood – The art of giving back to ourselves

Busy life of mothers

Being a mum in our modern world can be very challenging. We may be in a very supportive environment with many family and friends; or we may be living in isolation away from loved ones. In modern life many mothers juggle a working life with a family life. I often hear there are not enough hours in the day! How do I get everything done?

Being a mum I have become so consumed in daily life and I asked myself, “When was the last time I pampered myself, away from the daily dramas of finding school socks in the morning, or settling little ones after a long school day to sit, relax and give back to myself?” I do not remember!

Self pampering ritual – love yourself too

In many Asian countries the ritual of bathing feet in essential oils and flower petal is common. For us in the west it sounds exotic. It can be very simple to introduce the exotic ritual of pampering into our hectic daily lives. Put aside ½ an hour aside a week to self-pamper with a homemade face masks and a foot soak. Do it alone or together with your friends or partner. Enjoy a fruit or cheese platter, a glass of wine or herbal tea – whatever takes your fancy. It is not about being puritan but about enjoyment, it is about giving to yourself.

Stress and tension age us. They line our face in the form of wrinkles. If we look in the mirror and pull our stress face or anger face or sad face we are using muscles that crease the skin. Over time the creases turn into wrinkles. A weekly pampering ritual with mei gui hua ( Chinese tea rose) will help with beautifying the skin, by giving yourself some me time, sit and take a few deep breaths and relax your face.

A little background information of mei gui hua

Mei gui hua’s botanical name is rosa rugosa. It is also known as Chinese tea rose. It is used extensively in Chinese medicine for gynaecological complaints, depressive disorders, improving digestion, combatting fatigue and caring for the skin! Mei gui hua tea is important for maintaining youthful skin, it relaxes the mind and relieves nervous tension.


  1. Exfoliate first with almond meal and ground mei gui hua mixed with a little coconut oil and honey.
  2. Steam team face by boiling water in a saucepan with mei gui hua, then drape a towel over your head and put your head over the steam. Not too close so the skin is not burnt for about 5 minutes.
  3. Splash with rose water made from Mei gui hua.
  4. Make a face mask out of ground oats, ground mei gei hua, yogurt, honey, coconut milk or avocado. Use the rose water as a toner after the mask is washed off.
  5. While relaxing with the face mask soak your feet in warm water with eucalyptus oil or peppermint oil and flowers. Bliss!

Relax and enjoy.

To make homemade rose water, you will need 2 cups of spring water or distilled water and 1 cup mei gui hua petals. Boil the water and steep the rose petals for ½ hour. Strain and place water in jar. Keep refrigerated.

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